Post-traumatic stress- research
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While survivor guilt is not
experienced by everyone, and may vary a great deal in intensity, it appears to
be a common experience. The following article answers some questions survivors
may have after experiencing a tragedy.
Survivor guilt has been
described in Holocaust survivors, war veterans, rescue workers, transplant
recipients and relatives spared from hereditary illness. Relatively little
discussion of survivor guilt has taken place among long-term survivors of acute
and chronic illnesses.
Survivor guilt, when it occurs,
derives from situations where persons have been involved in a life-threatening
event and lived to tell about it. It is often experienced after traumatic
incidents causing multiple deaths. In the special case of chronic illness,
survivor guilt can occur after the deaths of peers who faced the same
diagnosis. By definition, there is an implied comparison with people who have
endured similar ordeals.
Anyone who survives can
experience these feelings including patients, families and healthcare
providers. Survivor guilt explores the other side of the coin of why me?
Namely, why not me? Why did I survive when others did not? Those who struggle
with it may express the feeling of being an impostor: somehow the
"wrong" person survived; it "just doesn't seem right." Many
feel that beating the odds makes little sense unless the survivor earned or
deserved it in some way. But some survivors emphasize they don't feel especially
deserving. To complicate feelings of unworthiness, in the early stages of grief
there is a tendency to idealize the deceased, so the survivor may feel even
less deserving by comparison.
Survivor guilt may be
reinforced by the frequent use of statistical profiles to predict as well as to
describe illnesses. However, people given the very same odds for survival do
not necessarily have similar outcomes. When only one survives, it is not
unusual to conclude that two persons facing the same threat somehow changed
places; that one person's healing occurred at the expense of another; or that
there is a debt owed to those who are gone. Some survivors may keep a low
profile to avoid spotlighting this contrast of outcomes.
Survivor guilt may exist for a
reason. It can help people find meaning and make sense out of their
experiences. It may help survivors cope with the helplessness and powerlessness
of being in a life-threatening situation without the ability to protect or save
others. It can also be one way to express a connection to those who have died,
a way, for a time, of keeping them alive. Importantly, survivor guilt can
co-exist with other responses, such as relief and gratitude, and may
occasionally be prompted by them.
Acknowledge and accept that
guilt exists. Feelings of guilt are quite common and represent part of the
healing process for persons coping with loss.
Logic may have little or no
impact on guilt, but it is important to do some reality testing with your
beliefs. Remind yourself that you are human.
When you find you are comparing
yourself with others, try instead to evaluate your situation on its own merits.
Some people try to "work
off" their guilt by setting high standards of achievement. This is a very
compelling strategy, but it rarely eases feelings of unworthiness.
It may help to find additional
ways to keep the memory alive for those who have died by creating a special
memory book or holding a service.
Remind yourself that you are struggling to make sense of one of the greatest mysteries of the human race. Rather than explaining it away, try to embrace the mystery.
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